Empathy

Put yourself in my shoes. We are often invited to take a mile-long walk in shoes that aren’t our own — maybe during an argument, maybe in the midst of a discussion or explanation, but always during matters of perspective. And that is the key. Perspective. Everyone’s is different, and, so is the invitation to test the other side out. But, how often do we actually do it? How often are we able to really put ourselves in that person’s place? The invitation itself is a difficult one to RSVP to. First of all, we must take into consideration the
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Language

By their very nature, words are specific. Some may have several meanings, different connotations, and minor shifts in feel depending on the context of their use, but, for the most part, “Table” never means “Chair” or vice versa. However, these are only words. If I live in a house occupied by only a table, I might learn to use it as a chair, or, perhaps, if I only have chairs, I may learn to use them as beds, shelves, and even company. This, though, is us. Even in these circumstances, the chair remains a chair. The nature and essence of
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Actions and Paths Toward Conflict Resolution

Driving down the highway with my wife… I was no more right than I was wrong – when has that ever averted my adhering to my position, though – we found ourselves at a junction: Do we argue and go down that path, or Do, in Japanese? I like that, Do (pronounced Doe) meaning path or way, and Do (pronounced Due) meaning take action. Japanese and English, Path/Way and Action, in the moment and implied in past and future. Often we get to the Green Belt phase and stop developing. This is where our actual skills are up against our grandly
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Aikido: Compassion and Assertiveness

I read something interesting recently. To quote, it said, Compassion is understanding, it does not include sacrifice. Compassion is not martyrdom, it is not sacrifice, it is pure mastery, even of the emotions of pity. This ties closely in with a discussion I was having with my life partner recently about Aikido, its teachings and philosophy, assertiveness and reconciling the taking of a life. In Aikido, as it has been explained to me, the objective is to return harmony and balance to a conflictive situation. But, not necessarily having your will bent in order to to it. The key is to
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Flight

Today, I flew. Less as a passenger and more as a little child, full of wonder and marvel at the passing clouds, the tiny life scurrying about beneath my feet, and at the feel of the yoke in my hands as I worked to steady the small cabin that held us a thousand feet in the sky. It was my first flying lesson. Since childhood, maybe 5 or 6, I had a handful of goals: Become an Archeologist or an Astronomer — or both, own a motorcycle — more specifically a chopper, become a Pilot of small planes — as
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