Empathy

Put yourself in my shoes. We are often invited to take a mile-long walk in shoes that aren’t our own — maybe during an argument, maybe in the midst of a discussion or explanation, but always during matters of perspective. And that is the key. Perspective. Everyone’s is different, and, so is the invitation to test the other side out. But, how often do we actually do it? How often are we able to really put ourselves in that person’s place? The invitation itself is a difficult one to RSVP to. First of all, we must take into consideration the
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Language

By their very nature, words are specific. Some may have several meanings, different connotations, and minor shifts in feel depending on the context of their use, but, for the most part, “Table” never means “Chair” or vice versa. However, these are only words. If I live in a house occupied by only a table, I might learn to use it as a chair, or, perhaps, if I only have chairs, I may learn to use them as beds, shelves, and even company. This, though, is us. Even in these circumstances, the chair remains a chair. The nature and essence of
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How Big Is Your “But?”

Is your BUT too big? Billy slammed his hand into the board again. It still wouldn’t break. His eyes, face and hand were the same crimson colour. Between expectations, frustrations, and impact, Billy’s mind, spirit, and body were all taking a beating. We all relate to this situation, whether through personal goals, relationships, business, our own expectations, and desires. We also know someone who asks us for help and counters every idea with, “Yeah but the problem is….” How often have you heard, or said, that? Recently, I was speaking with a friend who was not where he wanted to
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Actions and Paths Toward Conflict Resolution

Driving down the highway with my wife… I was no more right than I was wrong – when has that ever averted my adhering to my position, though – we found ourselves at a junction: Do we argue and go down that path, or Do, in Japanese? I like that, Do (pronounced Doe) meaning path or way, and Do (pronounced Due) meaning take action. Japanese and English, Path/Way and Action, in the moment and implied in past and future. Often we get to the Green Belt phase and stop developing. This is where our actual skills are up against our grandly
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Breathing is the Key to Everything

by: Master Cat Fitzgerald “Breathe. Breathe,” were the soft, yet demanding, words entering my sleep. Wait, I’m not sleeping. Why am I wet…uh oh….tell me I didn’t…. More and more clarity and confusion arose like the lights coming up in an unfamiliar room – you see more and, yet, have more questions. From the blackness the dimmer switch was being turned up with each “Breathe.” Looking to my side, waking to the coffee breath of my safety partner as she gently urged me awake, I realized I had blacked out; gone unconscious. Moments earlier that word could have meant death.
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Training Through Injury or Why an Injury Is Not Excuse to Stop Training

Stop me if you’ve heard this one: “I was training two to three times per week, but then I got injured and I had to take some time off. Now, I just can’t find the time to start up again.” I think it is fair to say that, if we have never spoken these words ourselves, we know at least one person that has. Let’s face it injury equals pain, and pain is scary. Whether it is the pain of damage or the pain of recovery is independent of the fear factor; most people do not like to feel or risk pain.
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